Over lunch the other week with some fellow plus size bloggers we got to talking about dating, specifically plus size dating.
Being plus size can be hard in what feels like a world of slim. And when it comes to dating it can be very daunting. preconceived ideas of "levels" can be damaging....the idea that a certain type of person is only suitable for a similar type of person is unfortunately deep rooted in today's society. All too often I hear, "he's a bit out of your league", or, "punching a bit above your weight there mate". Maybe I'm naive, maybe I'm sat here in my ivory, married tower, being all smug, but I'd like to think that one person; fat, thin, tall, short has just as good a chance with anyone they might find attractive regardless of appearance, status, career or race. I for one never limited my choice of perspective lovers because I felt I wasn't good enough for them, or that they might be "out of my league". Rejection can be hard to deal with, but regret is a cruel beast too, and personally I'd prefer to suffer momentary rejection than a lifetime of regret. Attractiveness is as personal as ones choice in music, ones taste in food or film. So surely, in that case there's just a chance he might like you? He might; shock, horror find a fat girl attractive, he might think the junk in your trunk is the best thing he's ever seen, he might get talking to you and find your sparkling wit, and intelligent conversation a turn on. Because news flash - some men *do* find fat attractive, some men just find women attractive, full stop! Regardless of shape & size. One of my fellow bloggers highlighted the case of a (conventionally)"attractive" friend of hers, who, having recently joined an online dating agency, had received a rather large influx of interest. This had been flagged up with the website, who then suggested they would filter out the less suitable, less attractive potential suitors - for her convenience. This enraged me!! What right did they have to decide who she dates? She might have a thing for a speccy geek, a chunky biker type or a beardy weirdy!! Not everyone finds the conventionally good looking all that attractive.
I for one cannot stand what I deem the "obvious" Brad Pitt? Keep him, Jonny Depp? No thanks....now Mark Lamar, Jarvis Cocker, Vic Reeves? Yes please!!!! Physical attraction is a natural reaction, there's no rhyme or reason to whom one fancies! So next time you jokingly tell a friend a potential love interest is out if their league, stop, think about it, and encourage them to take a chance. You never know you could be buying your Cilla wedding hat before you know it.